Category Archives: Here-now

How to be present?

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Q: How can I be more present? I really try to be present, but sooner or later I realize that I’ve been somewhere else in my thoughts. So what could I do? Do you have some techniques to learn how to stay present?

What is it here-now that is separate from this moment and can move in and out of the now?

Is there an ‘I’, an entity moving in and out of this moment?
Who is sometimes here, but some other times, leaves the present moment and goes to some other place and time?
Where would that be?
What other time?

Is there any other time and place than here now?

Stop reading for a moment, and do everything you can to leave the now. Just for a split of a second, go to the past.
Can you do that? No? Try harder…

Do you still believe that you have to learn how to stay present?

When you believe that you are not present, where do you go? Where are you then?
How could you leave this very moment? Can you see that this is utterly impossible?

If you can, then why do you want to stay present?
Aren’t you always here now?

Do you believe that when there are thoughts about the past and the future then you leave this moment and travel through time and space on the train of thoughts?

What is this ‘I’ that is so powerful that can leave this moment? A time traveller?
Isn’t this ‘I’ just the figment of imagination?

Just notice, isn’t the thought of a past happening now?
Isn’t the future a presently appearing thought, now?

Can you grasp the total impossibility of not being present?

Just let it sink in.
It is not possible to be anywhere else than here now.
Impossible.
No matter what the present story is about, this moment is all there is.

Or is there anything else than this present moment?
Is there any other time and place than this here now?

Just notice that tomorrow has no reality outside of the story about tomorrow, which is always appears now.
Tomorrow happens now, since all there is to tomorrow is the story of tomorrow.
Yesterday happens now, since all there is to yesterday is the presently appearing story about yesterday.

It is impossible not to be here in this moment.
Since this moment is all there is.
There is nothing outside of this moment.
There is no other time or space than this.
Literally. Just this.

But even saying that it is impossible not be here in this moment, is a stretch.
Why? Well… is there anything separate form this moment which could be in this moment?

Does this present experience have parts?
A ‘me’ which occupies a small space in a big universe?
Or this ‘separate me’ is just another story as this moment presently appears?

Are you something that is separate from what is?

Just notice that you are always here.
You cannot not be here.
And there is nothing separate from what is here.
Here is all there is.

So what is it that you believe yourself to be in the moment when you think that you need to learn to be present?

Noticing that there is no separate self can only ever happen right here now

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Q: I saw it in the past that there is no separate self, so why should I look more? I already know that there is none.

OK, so you are referencing back to a memory of a previous looking.

But realization does not exist in the past.
Only here now.

So in essence, it doesn’t really matter what has been seen yesterday, an hour ago, or even a minute ago.

The only thing that matters what is SEEN or NOTICED in this very moment.

Now… and now…. and now…

So the question is: can you see it now that there is no separate self governing life?
Can you see it now? And what about this moment? Is it clear now? And this moment? What about now?

Or is it now just a memory you hold onto?

If I cannot see something in this very moment, then I cannot see it. Then it is just a belief in this very moment, since I rely on a memory, it is not something that I experientially recognize now.

Therefore, looking always has to be afresh. You can never rely on a memory.

What is a memory anyway? Isn’t it just a thought that is appearing now?
So when you rely on the memory of a previous seeing, then is it a present experience, or it is just a thought story in this moment?

Can noticing of what IS happen any other time than now?

Why would you go to dead thoughts, while this moment is presently alive, here now?

Why not notice what is here now?
What do you need those memories for?
To perpetuate the notion that there is someone who saw in the past?
Someone who is searching, and can get awakened sometime in the future?

To keep the notion of an enduring entity who is living through time and space?
Where is this entity, now?

Can you notice here now that this is just a story about a character who is set on a journey towards awakening?

The story is here as the present thought, but where is the character?
Is the character also here?
Or is it just a baseless assumption?

Notice what is here now.
There is nowhere else to go or be.
Just this.

Seeking for answers

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Q: I have lots of questions, and a strong need for answers.


But who is asking? Who is in need for answers?
Haven’t you read and heard lots of answers already?
Do you think that your questions could ever be satisfied by the right answers?

What do you need your answers for?
For a sense of safety?
What needs to be safe, and from what?
Does life need to protect itself from life?

Do you think that if there were answers to found, you wouldn’t have found them by now?
Can you see that all these questions and seeking for answers have only one purpose, the keep the assumptions of a seeker in place?
A fictional person who has questions and is  in need of answers?

The questioner arises with the questions.
If there would be no answers, not just the questions would stop, but the one who is asking the questions.
The questioner arises and dissolves with the questioner.
The end of seeking for answers is the end of the questioner.
It is the realization that there is no-one at the core asking questions.

So what are you waiting for?
For the right answer? What for? To keep the illusion of a seeker going?
To keep the illusion that you are separate from life?
And one day when you find the right answer, then, and only then, you will be free and at home?

Why ‘one day’? Why not now?
If not now, when?

For how much longer will you seek, instead of stop and actually find what is already here, now?

What happens if you stop seeking for answers, just for a moment?
Can you see that stopping seeking is finding?
Can you see that anything you could ever find is already, presently here-now?

But here-and-now is the last place the questioner wants to look.
Since here-and-now, both the questioner and the questions collapse.
Here-and-now is all there is, as it is.

Seeking for the by-products of awakening

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Q: It’s so difficult to let go of expectations. I am always waiting for a shift, a change, and because of this, I am always thinking that I am doing something wrong or that I am not really understanding what you are saying.

A: Let’s dig a bit deeper with expectations, in general.

You are waiting for something to happen. You are waiting that sometimes in the future you will be able gain more clarity, more understanding, or whatever.

But awaking is not something to wait for to happen in the future.
It’s not in the future.
It’s here now.

It’s ALREADY here, waiting for you to NOTICE.
Here now is the only place and time to look and notice.

You are trying to judge it by some expectations, based on how you imagine how it would feel like or be like.
So in essence, you are waiting for the by-products you expect to happen.
So you are not noticing what is here now, rather you are seeking to find those by-products.

But realization isn’t recognized by its by-products.
The realization is self-evident, no by-product is needed.
If you are looking for the by-products, then you are just simply searching for by-products.

Realization is no equal to its possible by-products.
Those could only be by-products, but not IT.
Realization is the simple noticing of what IS, here-and-now, in this very moment.
Moment by moment. That’s all.
It’s very simple.

So when you look here-now, what do you notice?
What IS right now?

Private Sessions

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I offer two types of one-on-one private sessions: inquiry into the self, and inquiry into emotions (which sometimes overlap).

Inquiry into the self

This inquiry is for you if…

  • You have an intellectual understanding of there being no separate self, but you don’t know how to see it for yourself as a first-hand experience
  • You are longing for awakening and want to realize what it means that “you are not who you think you are”
  • You have already had glimpses, but you feel that something is holding you back from the experiential recognition of what you know to be true
  • You often find yourself thinking about the past and imagining the future, instead of noticing the ever changing present moment experience as it is
  • You would like to discover what beliefs you hold that create the feeling of being separate from life
  • You can see that you are not the body-mind, yet you don’t know who or what you are
  • You feel you are stuck in the witness position
  • You have had experiences of there being no real inherent me/ego, but this recognition has been gradually fading, and now it is mainly just a memory
  • You are tired of being a long-time seeker, and for once and for all you want to stop seeking by finding what you have been searching for
  • You have had the realization of the absence of a separate self, yet the sense of separation still persists
  • You feel ripe and ready to finally put aside all books and videos, and do an inquiry of your own experience, so you can finally live the recognition of there being no inherent separate me/self
  • You have gathered a plethora of expectations how awaking should be like, and you suspect that your expectations might be in the way of seeing things clearly in this moment as they actually are

If you would like to have several sessions at certain intervals, then I can give you exercises and pointers — based on our conversation — to investigate on your own between sessions.

If you would like to have a taste of the inquiry into the self, please read the home page.

Inquiry into emotions

This inquiry is for you if…

  • You have already recognized that there is no real inherent me/self, and yet you don’t feel free because of certain patterns and emotions repeatedly coming up and blocking you from being at ease
  • You would like to release deep rooted beliefs you hold about yourself — like “I am not good enough” or “I am not lovable”
  • You would like to discover what beliefs you hold that create suffering in your life
  • You are on the path of awakening, but you have some addictions — like cigarette, food, spending too much time on social media — that you would like to finally let go of
  • You would like to decondition and unlearn old patterns of feeling that don’t serve you anymore
  • You feel ready to face your fears and see them in a different light
  • You would like to live freely from regrets of the past, or feelings of guilt and shame
  • You would like to perceive your emotions differently, without the need to run away from them
  • You are already on the path of awakening, yet you often worry about the future and you don’t know how to stop worrying and live in peace
  • You are seeking freedom from the incessant stream of stressful thoughts
  • You have realized that no matter what you do, you are always dissatisfied in one way or another
  • You often feel resistance or aversion to certain things or people in your life
  • In spite of all your efforts on being on the right path, you don’t know how to forgive yourself or other people

Please make sure to read the Disclaimer before booking a session.

If you would like to have a session with me, you can get in touch with my by filling out the contact form.